Trying to find the right answer?
Growing up we are entrained that we need to find the answer.
To not only find the answer, but we need to find the Right answer.
From an early age we are constantly told that we need to get things right.
And punished when you don’t get things right.
At school you are expected to follow the rules and get your behaviour right.
You are expected to study hard and get your answers right.
You are expected to please your parents, do as you are told and get being “good” right.
So it’s no wonder that as we continue to grow and develop into adults, we are constantly trying to find the answer and get everything right.
We have learnt through experience that you are rewarded and punished depending on your ability to get things right.
Often being judged on how valuable you are by how much you can get right.
For example: get the answers right in a bunch of exams, and your chances of getting a well-paid job increase.
You learn to judge yourself and your personal value and worth on your ability to get things right.
But right by whose standards?
Right for whom?
The only way you know you’re right is when you get things wrong!
How confusing is that?!
In the struggle to get things right all the time, where are you?
Where do your wants , needs, desires fit in to this gruelling, punishing endless pursuit for getting it right?
Who and what are we desperately trying to please in this haunting hunt for the right answer, the right body, the right job, the right attitude, the right life?
We’re all the familiar with the concept that doing the same thing and expecting different results is a recipe for madness.
By that token, trying to please everyone all the time is a recipe for unhappiness and perhaps even despair.
In trying to get things right – for your parents, for your teachers, for your boss, for your significant other… Are you dis-counting who you are and what you desire and require?
Where are you in the equation?
We can get so caught up in everything we perceive to be demanded of us in this life, the way we “ought” to be…that we forget to even include ourselves in our life.
We make ourselves so wrong for never getting anything right that we punish, limit and restrict ourselves from ever having the life we truly desire.
Because of course it’s only when you get things right, that you can be rewarded.
When you get it wrong, you don’t deserve to get the things in life that you want….
What a vicious circle!
What an unkindness to you.
What if you could chose to let go of the need to do everything right and get everything right?
What if you were willing to let go of trying to find the right answer and instead think about what you desire and require?
Bring you back into your life.
What’s right for you?
What works for you?
What would you like to create?
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