Author: Niki

The Magic Of Being in Allowance

The Space of Being in Allowance for Other People’s Choices

There are so many amazing tools in Access Conscious that have and continue to help me in every area of my life and I am hugely grateful for that.

The tool I’m going to talk about today is:

Being in Allowance of other people’s choices.

Space of allowanceI used to find it so easy to see where other people were getting it wrong.

I’d see what’s stopping them, what’s holding them back, what’s causing them pain and want to jump in and help them.

I’d want to take the pain away, remove the blockages – rip away boulders with my bare hands if necessary – so they could move more freely into where they said they wanted to go.

Especially when it came to my kids.

Even after they’d grown into independent adults, I’d still be doing my best to help them make the right choices.

If they ran out of money, I’d pay their way, lend them money I didn’t have and do my best to take away their pain.

That’s a mother’s job, isn’t it?

There was no question in my world.

When I went to my first Foundation Class and learnt about how everything is choice.

Even the crap that shows up.

And how no matter what is showing up in someone’s life, on some level they have chosen it.

My Noble intentions to save everyone in the world, I discovered, was making myself the saviour and them the helpless victim… otherwise known as Superior Bitch behaviour.

Me trying to take their problems away for them, no matter how noble my intentions (or how superior I was being) without their invitation or consent.. was not a contribution to them.

What if they weren’t wrong or broken for choosing what they’d chosen?

What if they’ve created it in their lives for a purpose that had nothing to do with me?

Often in the past I’d do everything I could to take away another person’s problem, even at great cost to me in time, health, energy or money (or all of the above)… only to discover they’d re-created the problem, pain or burden in a different way.

Whatever was showing up in their lives was theirs and it was also their choice to change it and choose beyond.

Not my business.

Not my problem.

Even if I cared deeply about them.

Even if their choices led to illness and even death.

Their life. Their choice.

I could ask them questions.

I could invite them to a different possibility.

But I couldn’t be vested in the outcome.  I couldn’t make them choose what I wanted for them, what I thought was right for them.

It didn’t mean I had to like their choices.

It didn’t mean I had to stick around them or be a doormat while they made their choices.

All I had to do was be in allowance of their choices.

I had to let go of my judgement that they were making the wrong choice.

I had to let go of my judgement that they needed to make the right choice.

I had to let go of my projections and expectations of what I wanted for them or the so much more that I knew they were capable of.

I had to lower my barriers.

I had to stop resisting and reacting to their choices.

Or aligning and agreeing with everyone who made them wrong.

It was a totally different way of being for me.

At first it was haaard.

I wanted so much more for them than they seemed to want for themselves and it felt like I was abandoning them and being a bad person for not jumping in and helping.

It went against everything I’d always believed in to step back, let go of all of the above, hold the space of allowance and simply ask questions.

Yet in that space of allowance I discovered a strange kind of magic.

My being in allowance instead of trying to “fix” things was an honouring of them.

A recognition and acknowledgement that they had the power in their lives.

That they could use their power (choice) to stay as they were or change their situation, at any time and in any way they chose.

Being in Allowance created space for new possibilities.

Especially with my children.

It’s created a space of ease with my children where they get the sense that I really do have their back, regardless of what they choose.

They don’t have to get it right.

They don’t have to have or be or do anything that they think I think they should do.

No hidden agendas or underlying emotional blackmail. Totally unconditional relationship. Space of Allowance.

And it’s made my life easier too.

Now that I’m no longer trying to carry everyone else’s burdens and take on everyone’s problems, my life has lightened up and there’s room for more fun and laughter and more of me.

Especially when I’m being in Allowance of me too.

How does it get any better than that?

If you would like to find out how these tools can change things in your life, I invite you to a free 30min call with me: Book your space by clicking here

how to attract more clients to your workshops

How to attract more clients to your workshops

Questions to ask and an Energy Pull to attract people who would love to come to your workshop.

If you’re like me and deliver workshops and trainings as well as one to one sessions then it’s great to be able to get more clients and attract more clients to your workshops.

And it’s not just about attracting more clients, it’s about how to attract quality clients.

What kind of clients do you want to come to your workshops?

Do you love to have workshop attendees who join in? Who interact with you and your material?

Or do you prefer to have an audience who listen intently but don’t ask too many questions?

What kinds of personalities do you desire to have in your workshops?

Sometimes we can attract argumentative people to our workshops by the weird and conflicting energies that we are putting out….

If there is an area that you’re not willing to address within your own personal development, it can be the case that you attract people to show up at your workshops and courses that will challenge you in a way that brings these issues to the forefront.

Do you want your attendees to take what do you teach them and use it in their business or their lives?

What is the purpose of your workshop? Are you using it to get more paying clients?

These are great questions to ask yourself when you’re looking at ways of getting more people to your workshops and attracting paying clients.

More Energy Pulls from me:

Hi, I’m Niki Duffy and if you’d like to find out more about the Bars, and other tools and resources I can share with you, you can book a free call here:

Niki Duffy
Life and Business Coach
Property Investor
Holistic Therapist and Trainer
Access Consciousness Bars Facilitator
Access Consciousness Body Process Practitioner

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What are the Access Bars and what can they do for you?

What are the Access Bars and What can they do for you?

People often ask me

“What are the Access Bars and what can they do for me?”

I came across Access Consciousness The Bars™ randomly in 2012 when I was over in America for a conference with my Internet business.

I was hanging out with a friendly group of Americans that I met there and they suggested one evening that we all go out for a meal and then run some bars afterwards.

I was expecting to go on a pub crawl and thought it was just the American terminology… but what they were suggesting was very different!

What are The Bars™ and what is the benefit of having a Bars session can be quite difficult to explain.

What effects and benefits you will get when you have your Bars run?

Having your Bars run is often described as being like deleting all the unwanted programmes “Defragging” your computer…for your brain.

So getting someone to run your Bars is a way of easily clearing out all the gunky, rotten stuff that no longer serves you.  Yes, that’s right, the negative. toxic talk that spends time running round your brain.

All that negative chatter that’s been eating you up inside, keeping you awake at night and maybe even impacting on your physical health.

All the energy that’s previously gone into keeping those toxic, painful conversations alive… after having your Bars run no longer has to hurt you.

In fact, some people find there’s no “charge” around it after a Bars session.

A Bars session usually takes about an hour and is often a deeply relaxing experience.

There are many physical health issues that are alleviated after having your Bars run as well and often people are surprised by the many positive ways that their lives are impacted by this simple, relaxing treatment.

If you’d like to find out more about what are The Access Bars™, and other tools and resources I can share with you, you can book a free call with me, Niki Duffy here:


Fiona Cutts Expert Interview

Fiona Cutts Interview With An Expert Series

In August Bank Holiday this year, I attended a 4 day class Facilitated by Fiona Cutts and Andrea Lazenby (look out for Andrea’s Expert Interview coming Soon).

The 4 day class was Access Consciousness The Foundation and WOW!!!

What a dynamic way to let go of limitations that had been holding me back and catapult me into more of the joyful, delightful and stress-less space that’s working for me now!

I had a lot of fun interviewing Fiona Cutts for this Expert Series.

And this interview isn’t about me.

It’s about Fiona.

It’s about how Fiona started on her road to becoming an expert, the hills and potholes along the way and what kind of classes and services Fiona now offers to the world:



Fiona is an International Facilitator who empowers you to create greater and more in your life, beyond what you thought was possible for you.

She uses the simple, quick, pragmatic, fun tools of Access Consciousness that allow you to create what you would like to create in your life in an easier and quicker way, and change what isn’t working for you.

For a free video series with Fiona’s favourite tools and tips go here –

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Is now the time to create and choose what we have always known was possible????

“Most likely you are like me in that you know something different is possible, something beyond the mundane, mediocre, dull lives that people lead where people seem to value survival over creating a life that they really love!

It’s now about 5 years since I first found the tools of Access Consciousness, and my whole life has changed, beyond what I ever thought was possible for me!

I love sharing these powerful, simple, quick tools with people – there is a speed and ease to transformation that I adore!”

Discover more about Fiona here:

Matt Bochsler Expert Interview

Matt Bochsler Interview With An Expert Series

In our very first interview of this series, the lovely Matt Bochsler joined me to talk about business, weird stuff and changing the world.


So how do I know Matt Bochsler?

Truth is, I didn’t!

I’d come across Matt via You Tube and his phenomenal videos where Matt talks about and shares the tools of Access Consciousness.

So when the idea came to me to create this Expert Interviews series, I was asking questions about who to invite to be interviewed and Mr Bochsler popped up in my Facebook, responding to a message that I’d sent him previously about how much I was enjoying his videos on Energy Pulls.


That’s when I made the daring and cheeky move of asking Matt Bochsler if he would be willing to be interviewed about his business and how he helps people with Tools, Nurturing Body Processes, Classes and Questions of Access Consciousness….

… dynamically change the parts of life that aren’t working and contribute to a future that holds more joy and possibilites.

As you see in the interview, Matt is a true gentleman and I love his dry rolling humour.

Matt is an Access Consciousness Certified Facilitator and has a deep kindness that softens his huge presence and potency, making him easy to respond to, receive from and connect with.

“10 years ago I reached all the goals I had labeled as ‘as good as it gets’ in this reality.  Acknowledging the 40 years before no longer had meaning, my story began.  I Knew there was a kinder way to be in the world that far surpassed anything i had experienced, and anyone could choose it.  As a transformational body worker and Access Consciousness facilitator, I be the energy space and consciousness you require in sessions and classes to know what you know, be who you be,  and actualize it in your reality.  What would you like to choose that you know is possible, and until now couldn’t choose? Lets choose it:)”

How can you refuse such a delicious invitation?

Let the Adventure begin!

Discover more about Matthew Bochsler here:

Access Consciousness Certified Facilitator
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How can you use Energy Pulls to create more for your business?

How can you use Energy Pulls to create more for your business?

“We tend to think that in business, our product is something tangible, that what we give to others is a thing,”

Says Dr Dain Heer, Co-Creator of Access Consciousness.

“When you’re creating anything, what you are creating is a level of energy that invites people to a new possibility. It’s the energy you create, not the thing you give somebody.”

If you’re willing to pull energy, you can use it to invite the universe to work for you in building any aspect of your business.

Placing an ad?

Pull energy through it dynamically!

Answering the phone?

Start pulling the caller’s energy before you even start to speak.

Planning a public event of any kind?

Start by pulling energy into it and through it, from everyone that knows about it and everyone that’s looking for what you have to offer but hasn’t found out about you yet.

Just ask and notice if you start to feel the energy flow.

Ask to increase the energy flow, now what do you notice?

How much fun can you have playing with this?

The more you do this for the fun of it and the curiosity of what and who might show up, the better the results can be.

What if you could use this same principle with photographs, especially those you are going to use to promote your business.

This Cat is Pulling Massive Amounts Of Energy and that’s why the photo is so engaging


Gary Douglas, founder and Co-Creator of Access Consciousness, pulls the entirety of the energy of the universe through him when he’s being photographed.





He used a photo where he’d been pulling energy dynamically while the photo was being taken… for a lecture he was doing in New York.

“Let’s go to that lecture,” he heard some New Yorkers saying. “That looks like a good one.”

The photo they were looking at was about an inch square and so grainy he was unrecognizable.

Gary knew that they didn’t recognize him from the picture because he was standing right behind them as they had this conversation!

Yet the energy of this unrecognizable photo was enough to pull them to his lecture.

What could you create for your business, your money flows and your life by playing with Energy Pulls?

Join us to Pull Energy Daily into expanding your money flows, your health, your business and beyond by CLICKING HERE

Energy Pull: The Essence Of You

Energy Pull: The Essence Of You

I get a lot of people ask me what an energy pull is, so here’s a taster


What if you could pull more of what you desire into your world easily?

Pulling the energy is a great way to do that.

By pulling energy, you’re not taking anything away from anyone and you’re creating more joy, playfulness and fun which is a gift to you and to all that you do and all the people you interact with.

I’ve found by doing energy pulls every day it’s creating more in my life and the lives of those around me.

What else is possible now?

Some of the questions I often get asked:

  • Can you do it wrong?


There is no “Wrong” way of doing an energy pull. You simply pull the energy. You can do that soooo easily, in fact the easier you make it the better. Just ask for the energy to start pulling, or know that when you put your focus on pulling energy then the energy will automatically start to pull in the way that you require it to.

  • What about “Bad” energies?

There is no danger of pulling “bad” energies.  You can ask to pull the energies of what Donald Trump knows about money without having to put up with his hair.  Simple focus on the energies that you desire and require more of in your life and pull them.

  • Does me pulling energy from someone diminish the amount of energy they have, or harm them?


In fact they get more energised by your energy pulls as the energy pulls through them too and enlivens as it goes.  If you’re pulling energy from their front, they have more energy flowing in through their back. It’s like looking at a shiny piece of gold. No matter how much or how hard you look at it, your looking won’t take away from the gold’s shine.

  • Can it be fun?

YES!!! Have fun with it, enjoy it, laugh, pull more of the joyful energies, giggle, move your body and have even more fun.

Having fun with it is the way that it works the best.


Join me for Daily Energy Pulls and get your first week free Click HERE

Niki xxx

Has your business hit a brick wall?

Has your business hit a brick wall?

Change the energy, change the results

Have you ever had a situation that you were all fired up about, excited, things were going well in your life or business and it felt like you were on a roll……..and then it stopped.


For no apparent reason.


It suddenly felt like you’d hit a brick wall.

Then things got hard.

The same things that you’d been doing with ease just the other day now felt like pushing a boulder up hill?

So what did you do?

Try harder.

Push harder.

Struggle more?

Try and force your way through this brick wall.

How’s that been working out for you?

I found myself in exactly this same position last week.

An exciting new project that I’d got involved in suddenly went flat.

What had been fun and joyful and feeling easy to do…somewhere around the middle of last week started to feel like wading through thick mud.

It was becoming harder work.

And worst of all, the results were drying up.

At first I just powered on through.

I’m a determined person. I’m no quitter.

I’d picked this project for a reason.  This is a fun project, a good project, I’ve set myself targets for this project which are important for me to reach.

So I pushed harder, I worked harder and not only did it become less and less fun, but my results were going backwards!

Then yesterday, I took a breath.

I stepped back and looked at the bigger picture.

What was going on here?

And that’s when I realised that I’d stopped asking questions.

So what was the first question you think I asked?

“What questions do I need to be asking here?”

Simple, yes.

Powerful? Oh yes!

That question reminded me of an audio I’d listened to which explained about getting the Energy of what you desire and wherever you become aware of that energy, go with that.

So I focused on the Energy.

The energy of all that I was desiring to create with this project.

It has a lightness, a playfulness, an expansiveness, a joy about it.

Then I got the current energy.

The “dead end”, “brick wall” energy that I’d created around this.

Which of these is more of a contribution to me, my project and my team?

So yesterday morning at about 8am, I was able to change the energies surrounding my new project to make it fun and joyful again for me.

And guess what?

Things started moving again.

Potential business partners and customers started contacting me – I got a text at 8.59am, an email at 10.12am and the day went on like that, fun, flowing, easy.

Is there an energy around a project that you’re working on that would be more fun to change?

If you would like to learn tools to easily change the heavy, dead, “stuck” energy, CLICK HERE to receive free tools that change “stuck” to magical super quick!

What Is Access Consciousness?

What if you could ask a question and get back into the place of knowing what is true for you?
So what is Access Consciousness? Access Consciousness is a set of tools and techniques.
They are the weirdest, wildest, wackiest things you’ll ever run into, but they work.
Access is a way of giving you access to you.
A way of changing anything in your life you’ve ever wanted to change because
don’t we all have things we want to change? But I think as its underlying premise,
it’s based on the idea that you’re not wrong.
What if there were nothing wrong with you, in any way?
And what if the difficulties you’ve created in your life
were based on the lie, that you were wrong in some way, for what you chose
Consciousness is the place where you’ve gone a thousand times,
where everything works, nothing is difficult, it’s all easy,
it falls into place as if by magic
And then you go “How the heck did I do that?”
Because you don’t get that you create consciousness in every choice you make.
When you make the choice that comes together with ease, everything in life gets better.
For you, and almost everybody around you.
Access is a way to create the change in your life, that you’ve always wanted to create.
It’s got tools, it’s got techniques
and different weird ways of looking at the world, that are designed to create
a sense of space in your life, a sense of joy, a sense of actually wanting to be alive.
When was the last time you woke up excited like a little kid to be alive?
That’s what Access gives you. That’s what it’s about.
The purpose of Access is to empower everyone to know that they know.
Your whole life you’ve always known certain things, and you probably went against those knowings
and you ended up in a pile of poo because of it. But the reality, is you knew.
If you really want to know what you are capable of knowing, look back on your life
and see all the places where you went against what you knew would be a certain way,
and you went against it. And it turned out exactly the way you thought it was gonna be.
That was your moments of consciousness.
Choose that every moment of every day and you will have a different reality.
You don’t have to follow any dogma, you don’t have to get rid of whatever it is that is working for you
in your life. You just add this to it, to create it as better, easier and more fun.
How long have you been trying to fit this reality inside of you?
This is what I look at it like: What if this reality was this big, and your reality is huge.
It’s massive. It covers the whole entire universe. Are you tired of
trying to fit this reality inside yours? What if you use this reality to your advantage?
And what’s your reality? What would you like your life to look like?
What if you could create your life from a totally different perspective?
What if it doesn’t have to be from everybody else’s judgments
of what you’re supposed to do, or how you are supposed to be?
What if it could actually be from how you want to have your life and living and reality
and just don’t give a damn about what everybody else thinks about it?
I was so relieved to find out that Access doesn’t have any answers
that it’s actually all questions
to get me to know what’s going to work for me. What answers I have, what knowing I have.
One of the things I love about Access, is that you don’t have to join it.
It doesn’t have a dogma. It’s not going to tell you to believe this or to believe that.
It’s going to get you to the space, where you become the question for everything.
You becoming the question, for me that was huge.
It began to take down all these structures, that I had of what was true of my belief system of
what was right and what was wrong. I just want to say at the outset, this is a choice.
You don’t have to do this. But for me it’s created this enormous freedom
to see that I didn’t need to take anyone else’s point of view.
I didn’t need to take any cultural point of view and religious point of view.
Any politically correct point of view. I could ask a question and I could get
back to that state of knowing what was true for me, which is something that I gave up
very early on. I think most of us give up. Because in one way or another
– psychologically otherwise – it’s sort of beaten out of us.
But you do know what’s true for you.
Access Consciousness empowers each of us, to know what’s true for us.
To be that question and to know that we have choice in everything.
That we are a contribution too.
Access Consciouness has over 2,000 facilitators…
… and the tools are practiced in more than 170 countries worldwide.
Would you like to know more?
You can contact me click here

What if you are the CHANGE this world requires?

Trying to find the right answer


get the answer right

Trying to get the right answer?

Trying to find the right answer?

Growing up we are entrained that we need to find the answer.

To not only find the answer, but we need to find the Right answer.

From an early age we are constantly told that we need to get things right.

And punished when you don’t get things right.

At school you are expected to follow the rules and get your behaviour right.

You are expected to study hard and get your answers right.

You are expected to please your parents, do as you are told and get being “good” right.

So it’s no wonder that as we continue to grow and develop into adults, we are constantly trying to find the answer and get everything right.

We have learnt through experience that you are rewarded and punished depending on your ability to get things right.

Often being judged on how valuable you are by how much you can get right.

For example: get the answers right in a bunch of exams, and your chances of getting a well-paid job increase.

You learn to judge yourself and your personal value and worth on your ability to get things right.

But right by whose standards?

Right for whom?

The only way you know you’re right is when you get things wrong!

How confusing is that?!

In the struggle to get things right all the time, where are you?

Where do your wants , needs, desires fit in to this gruelling, punishing endless pursuit for getting it right?

Who and what are we desperately trying to please in this haunting hunt for the right answer, the right body, the right job, the right attitude, the right life?

We’re all the familiar with the concept that doing the same thing and expecting different results is a recipe for madness.

By that token, trying to please everyone all the time is a recipe for unhappiness and perhaps even despair.

In trying to get things right – for your parents, for your teachers, for your boss, for your significant other… Are you dis-counting who you are and what you desire and require?

Where are you in the equation?

We can get so caught up in everything we perceive to be demanded of us in this life, the way we “ought” to be…that we forget to even include ourselves in our life.

We make ourselves so wrong for never getting anything right that we punish, limit and restrict ourselves from ever having the life we truly desire.

Because of course it’s only when you get things right, that you can be rewarded.

When you get it wrong, you don’t deserve to get the things in life that you want….

What a vicious circle!

What an unkindness to you.

What if you could chose to let go of the need to do everything right and get everything right?

What if you were willing to let go of trying to find the right answer and instead think about what you desire and require?

Bring you back into your life.

What’s right for you?

What works for you?

What would you like to create?

I’m offering a limited number of free private tasteer sessions as a way for you to be kinder to you.

This is for anyone who wants to create more with your life.

I’m offering these in honour of World Suicide Prevention Day (10th September 2016).

You don’t have to be sad, depressed or suicidal to benefit and book your free taster session here

You don’t need to get to a place where you’ve made yourself so wrong, you’re suicidal to start to ask for more of what works for you and being gentle and kind to you.

As a way of being kinder to you, book your free taster session here

Access The Bars. It’s gentle, it’s effective, it’s for you to have more of you.